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How To Figure Out Your Plan For Your Life: Your Big Why
Oh my gosh. There is so much talk about this whole WHY thing and, for me, I had no idea how to figure out what my why was. I had no idea to even know where to start figuring it out!!! Help. Are you there? Are you where I was?
Let me see if I can help.
I am going to use myself as an example because they always say to "use what you know". Of course, in this case it may not apply since I still don't know exactly how this whole thing works.
Somehow after reading books I determined it started with goals. That only served to confuse me more . What is a goal? In football it is a couple of posts standing up that people kick a football through. I'm pretty sure that isn't what was meant in this situation.
According to google a goal is: the object of a person's ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.
Hmmmmm. What am I trying to accomplish?
Dreaming is great. 🗨️𝨐 I love to sit around and dream about going places and seeing new things and taking great pictures. I really wish I could. Follow along and sit for a moment and dream. What are you wishing for?
What was the word that messed the whole thing up? It is the word WISH. We are always told to "wish upon a star" or throw a penny in a wishing well to get a wish, or even rub a genie (never could figure that one out) or blow out candles on a birthday cake. Did it work for you?
Wishing doesn't get you very far. You have to put legs to the wish.
So let's just talk the first part of my wish. Going Places. You follow along with your wish.
I wish I could go places.
I can go places.
I will go places.
I am going places
I am creating a plan to go places.
How did yours come out? I had a mind-shift. An attitude change. I went from wishing I could go places to creating a plan to actually do it.
Where do I want to go? I am dreaming about going to Alaska. I have never been and I would like to go and see what is there.
First, I have to convince myself that I CAN do it. Luckily for me I am an optimistic person. It is easy for me to say "I can". If you have trouble with that then you may have to take some time to convince yourself it is possible. Read positive thinking books. Talk to positive people. Eliminate the negative people in your life. (Hope you aren't married to one). Write it on your hand, on the mirror in your bathroom, and just about everywhere.
(Let me just throw in here that it really has to be reasonable. If you dream about visiting Mars you might need to back off just a bit.)
Second, you have to go from CAN to WILL. Admittedly, I often fall down here. The reason? I don't want it bad enough. My WHY isn't big enough. This is where you decide if your dream (mine) is to go to Alaska or it was because I watched a documentary on Alaska and thought it was nice. If you don't want it bad enough then go back to the dream board.
In my case, however, I DO want this to happen. I have decided. I know I CAN. At this point all doubt has to be eradicated. It has to be my reason for getting out of bed in the morning. I AM going to Alaska. This is a great time to start telling people. That serves to do two things. First, it will become more real and second, they will hold you accountable.
Now for my plan. It has to be done in "outline" form. I hate outlines. I am going to list them first as questions?
How much money do I need to make this happen? (Quite often this can be the challenge.)
When am I going? I think first I need to determine what season I want to be there. Winter, spring, summer, fall. The weather will be a factor and depending on what I plan on doing may determine what time of year I am going. Step: Research seasons in Alaska.
How am I getting there? I already know this one. I am buying one of the Sprint RV's. It is big enough to accommodate what I need and small enough so I don't need to drag along an additional car. See I already had that figured out because I have started my research.
How long will I be gone? For me, since my time is flexible, that can be an open-ended question. How long I am gone really doesn't matter. I can be gone a year if I want to. I think I will fill that blank in with "until I am bored" or "until I want to go home". That will suffice.
What will I do when I get there? I have no idea. I don't even know what is there is except wilderness. That has a draw on me. I grew up in Maine so I like wilderness, trees and water. I need to make that a little more specific though. Step: Research things to do in Alaska. Since I am driving there I will also research things to do along the way.
How much money will I need to make this happen? This is going to take a lot more research because I don't have unlimited funds. I guess the first thing I need to do is research how much a Sprint RV is going to cost. Shall I buy new or used? How much is my budget going to be?
Other money questions to research and answer:
How much will gas cost?
How much will it take for food and toiletries?
How much will it cost for "things I want to do"?
How much will it cost to keep the household back home running?
I am sure there are many others and I will research and make a list along the way. I will have to decide if I want to go the "economy version" or the "luxury version"?
How are you doing? Is this making sense? If you are at a stand still then do more research. For me, however, I am not the kind of person that wants everything move planned to death. I want the freedom to change my mind and do things on the "spur of the moment".
So that is my WISH, CAN, WILL, AM, AM.
Each one of my questions (steps to the plan) will take some more research in order to get it all together. I guess I should have put in my question place "how long do I want it to take to do the research?" :-)
Or I could "just wing it". Just kidding.
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